3 Simple Keys for Overcoming Negativity in Your Life
Having constant negative thoughts pouring through your mind will quickly put a damper on your creativity, and tends to get in the way of realising your true potential.
While we all know that being more positive and optimistic in our lives will help us find success, but many struggle to make the change from a negative to a positive mindset. Here are five simple keys to help you overcome negativity and change your life.
Recognise When You Are Using Negative Thoughts
Often, when we are being ridiculed, facing disappointment, or not wanting to put in the effort, we'll use negative thoughts to protect ourselves. When we think negative thoughts, like "It won't work," or "I can't do that," we are permitting ourselves to play it safe. When you catch yourself thinking negatively and talking yourself out of action, take a step back and remind yourself that the most successful people have also faced failure. If you are talking yourself out of something that you want, take the time to make a list of why you want it. The list of positives will help to change your focus and keep you moving forward with less fear.
Use Black and White Thinking
Many people will tell you to just "think positive." However, it isn't always that easy. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thinking, or are terrified of a negative outcome, positive thoughts often ring as untrue. When you find yourself worrying about a negative result, take a piece of paper and pen and write down the worst thing that can happen. Then, write down the best thing that could happen. Then, think of some middle ground outcomes. When you create a variety of potential outcomes, you will become less emotional, which will help you think more clearly.
Become an Observer of Your Thoughts
Doesn't it always seem much easier to see and solve someone else's problems than your own?
You can recognise when your sister is getting all worked up over nothing, or that losing sleep over a meeting isn’t going to help. However, when it is your mind dealing with negative thoughts, it’s a lot tougher to see and stop. When you decide you want to be more positive, you need to become more conscious of what you are thinking. When you can step back and analyse things as an observer, you will see a shift in your focus, and you'll be more mindful of how you are looking at the situation.
Being able to focus more on positive thoughts will make you happier and more optimistic about your life.
his will allow you to experience more joy and well-being.
How To Love Yourself
1. Stop all criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticise yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticise yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Forgive yourself.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness & knowledge that you had. Now you are growing & changing and you will live life differently.
3. Don't scare yourself.
Stop terrorising yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives your pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
4. Be gentle and kind and patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
5. Be kind to your mind.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
6. Praise yourself.
Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
7. Support yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
8. Be loving to your negatives.
Acknowledge you created them to fulfil a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfil those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
9. Take care of your body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
10. Mirror work.
Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day say: "I love you, I really love you!"
11. LOVE YOURSELF- DO IT NOW!
Don't wait for until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship.
Begin NOW- do the best you can.
12. Have Fun.
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do.
Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you.
© Louise Hay Blog “Do You Love Yourself?” January 3, 2013,
2 Ways to Love Yourself videos: www.youtube.com/healyourlife
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It is important that you find what you are passionate about because focusing your time and energy on the wrong thing can cause you to become unmotivated and disappointed with your life. And remember, that sometimes the light that you need to shine on your path is right inside of you.
Hypnosis and Self-Esteem
In a 2017 research in the UK by Dove, it was found that 61% of 10-17 year old girls in the UK have low self-esteem.
Self-esteem is an area that can affect so many different areas of an individual life.
From sports professionals to teenagers, weight issues to addictions, self- esteem can lie beneath many of the issues that I work with as a hypnotherapist.
We all have times when we lack confidence and do not feel good about ourselves.
But when low self-esteem becomes a long-term problem, it can have a harmful effect on our mental health and our day-to-day lives.
Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves.
Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth.Synonyms or near-synonyms of self-esteem include: self-worth, self-regard,
self-respect, and self-integrity.
When we have healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. It makes us better able to deal with life's ups and downs.
When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light.
We also feel less able to take on the challenges that life throws at us.
I have seen it perhaps most frequently in the teenagers of today, whether that is due to the impact of social media, or differing parenting skills and upbringings; I have seen at first hand how that sense of self-worth can change everything.
Some of the signs of low self-esteem can be
It will identify those areas and aspects affected most and will improve coping abilities, address past potential causes, and find renewed hope and positivity.
My Hypnosis for “Reclaiming Your Self-Esteem” program will enable you to re-focus and tap into your natural confidence - a confidence that you were actually born with!
Whether our sessions are face-to-face in person or online, hypnosis can help you.
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Coronavirus - Coping With The Chaos
How To Manage Uncertainty in Uncertain Times
The world is in the grip of a global pandemic.
We are living in extremely uncertain times - and that uncertainty can be difficult to cope with.
You may feel worried right now.
You may struggle to keep anxious thoughts in check.
And you may feel unsure about the future.
But help is at hand - you CAN learn to live with uncertainty.
Facing Uncertainty is Scarier than Facing Physical Pain
In 2016, a group of London researchers explored how people react to being told they will either "definitely" or "probably" receive a painful electric shock. They discovered an intriguing paradox.
Volunteers who knew they would definitely receive a painful electric shock felt calmer and were measurably less agitated than those who were told they only had a 50 percent chance of receiving the electric shock.
Researchers recruited 45 volunteers to play a computer game in which they
turned over digital rocks that might have snakes hiding underneath.
Throughout the game, they had to guess whether each rock concealed a
snake. When a snake appeared, they received a mild but painful electric
shock on the hand.
Over the course of the game they got better about predicting under which
rocks they’d find snakes, but the game was designed to keep changing the
odds of success to maintain ongoing uncertainty.
And when we’re facing outcomes imbued with uncertainty, it’s the fact that
something bad might happen that “gets” us.
The volunteers’ level of uncertainty correlated to their level of stress. So, if
someone felt “certain” he or she would find a snake, stress levels were
significantly lower than if they felt that maybe they would find a snake.
In both cases, they’d get a shock, but their stress was loaded with added
Archy de Berker from the UCL Institute of Neurology said:
"Our experiment allows us to draw conclusions about the effect of uncertainty on stress. It turns out that it's much worse not knowing you are going to get a shock than
knowing you definitely will or won’t.”
Uncertainty Ignites our Primitive Survival Instinct
If we can’t neutralise a perceived threat, we engage in the unhelpful process called “worry”.
We grapple with whatever the problem is to find solutions to the threat, but there are none.
Does this make us feel better? No, of course it doesn’t - it makes us feel worse.
In our need for certainty, we are wired to “catastrophise” - we view or talk of a situation as worse than it actually is. This leads to worry, which in turn leads to anxiety.
The modern brain struggles to distinguish between real threat and perceived threat.
The result is that the primitive brain takes over and triggers the primitive survival instinct - fight-or-flight.
It asks questions:
What is going to happen...?
What is around the corner for me...?
Should I be doing less...?
Should I be doing more...?
What if my business is threatened...?
What if my livelihood is threatened...?
What if my life is threatened...?
The lack of answers can lead to:
What Can we do to Mitigate Uncertainty?
There are a number of things we can do to lessen the effects of uncertainty:
Stand up to Anxiety with Some Mood-Boosters
• Exercise and movement
• Meditation, self hypnosis
• Achievement-oriented activity
• Something pleasant or fun
Just 15 minutes a day, focussing on yourself, will help you regain a sense of balance.
The more you practice all these strategies, the better you will become! To help you with the mood-boosting.
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I’m Rosemary, Registered Nurse, Mindset Coach & Hypnotherapist.
My mission is to inspire and empower women to respect and believe in themselves by teaching them how to have a positive mindset to achieve an overall sense of wellbeing, shine their light and become the best version of themselves.I work with overwhelmed Mothers wanting more work/life balance, Empty Nesters who are ready for the next chapter, or any Woman looking for more freedom and fulfilment.
If you are someone needing help to design a new lifestyle, then please visit my website at www.rosemaryobrien.com.au and let me help you transition into the life you’ve only ever dreamed of.
A life you love!