Discovering your life's purpose and finding your calling is becoming more prevalent in today's society. As the idea of personal development becomes more popular, the idea of maintaining the status quo continues to decline. This seems to coincide with the increasing number of people who are experiencing burn out and are in search of a life that inspires growth, feels better and has a positive impact on the world.
Unfortunately, too many people get caught up in the belief that their true calling is going to result in widespread recognition and a sizeable fortune. While this may end up proving true for some people, for the majority of us it isn't required or guaranteed. Don't be fooled into thinking that widespread recognition and fame are needed to fulfill your true calling.
The Japanese call finding your true calling, Ikigai and it is derived from the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs. When you are able to find this ikigai, you will gain significant benefits both for yourself and the world in general. Just imagine what the world would look like if we were all living at the intersection of passion, vocation, profession, and mission.
As sophisticated and intelligent beings, we have many desires and needs that drive our behaviour. One of the most powerful of these that often gets ignored is the desire to find deep fulfilment in our lives. To know that what we are doing matters and has a positive impact on those around us and on society.
Today's challenge is that most of us haven't had the chance to hear, let alone listen and respond to our true purpose because our lives don't give us the context for that to happen. We tend focus on what we should do rather than taking the time to discover what we were born to do. Fortunately, there are things that anyone can do to help them find their true calling.
1. Look Within
If you want to find your true calling, then you have to start by looking within yourself. Too many of us are afraid of spending time alone without distractions. This is usually because we have an underlying feeling of fear that lingers beneath the surface of our everyday lives. Deep down we understand that if we shut out the world and focus on ourselves that we will have to face our demons and confront the traumas, issues, and emotions that we’ve locked up inside for so long.
We tend to lock pain away as a means of survival when we don't have the proper tools and support available to us. It is an adaptive reaction and is nothing that you should be ashamed of or feel guilty about. However, there will come a time when you will have to journey within yourself. When we look inwards, we have to begin to wade through the mess of our internal world. However, with enough time, self-love, and perseverance, we will emerge stronger and more empowered.
2. Start Journaling
An easy way to get started in finding your life’s purpose is to start journaling. When you place your thoughts on paper, you allow yourself to process everything that has been backlogged, empty your mind, and bring clarity to how you are experiencing your life.
The great thing about a regular journaling practice is that you don't have to worry about what you write, you just have to let your words flow. If you get stuck, you can start to think about those things in your life that make you angry, sad or any other emotion or experience that you are dealing with at the moment.
We all lead busy lives, and finding time to journal can be a bit of a challenge. You can try to spend time writing in your journal first thing in the morning, right before you go to bed, or really anytime that makes sense and can fit into your daily routine. Journaling is most effective when you can dedicate at least 20 minutes a day to the practice.
As you journal, take some time to go back and read old entries. Often, those old entries can be incredibly insightful for understanding your current circumstances and for seeing how far you've truly come along your journey.
Along with helping you find your real purpose in life, journaling also has other unexpected benefits according to recent scientific evidence. Journaling can help you to clarify your thoughts and feelings, get to know yourself better, reduce stress, help you solve problems more effectively, and help you learn to resolve disagreements with others.
3. Become an Observer
Another way you can start to look within to find your true purpose is through the regular practice of mindfulness meditation and time spent alone in nature. In today’s modern, hyper-sensitive non-stop society, quiet time and solitude are rare and necessary experiences that many of us are deficient in.
Finding the time to make this kind of priority will allow you to learn how to tune out the external distractions in your life and cultivate awareness within yourself. Mindfulness meditation will also let you learn how to listen and bear witness to how you are feeling and thinking. It will enable you to carefully examine the choices that you are making on a daily basis. This pure awareness of choice is a seed that, when properly nurtured and protected it will help you in allowing your Ikigai to bloom fully.
When you can begin to realize that you can shift your focus, you start to reclaim your power and can begin to fully imagine how things in your life could be different. With this power, you are better equipped to find the harmony within yourself, as well as all of your relationships, both professional and personal.
Increasing your realisation isn't a one-time event. When it comes to finding correct understanding and the integration of that realisation into your life, can be a lengthy process. The transitory nature of our experiences and our innate tendency to forget things, even those things that at the time were so clear and paradigm shifting, only works to set us up to re-discover and re-learn the same lesson over again.
One way to help you with remembering is to capture an audio or video or quickly write down the realisation at the moment and them to revisit it on a regular basis.
Getting started with mindfulness meditation is easy. Start by setting aside some time and find a quiet space to practice. The aim of mindfulness is not to quiet the mind or attempt to achieve a state of calm, but instead, you are aiming to pay attention to the present moment, without judgment. When you are in the midst of your practice, if you start to notice judgments arising in your mind, merely make a mental note of them and let them pass and return to observing the present moment.
Often, our minds tend to get carried away in thought. That’s why in mindfulness meditation the goal is to practice returning, again and again to the present moment. It is important that during your practice, you don’t judge yourself for whatever thought comes to mind, just practice recognising when your mind has wandered off and gently bring it back to the present.
4. Expand Your Knowledge Base
To expand your knowledge base, you can read new books that you wouldn't usually read. Books will give you a window into the world of someone else. They are full of wisdom, knowledge, and valuable insights. If are always on the go or are more of an auditory learner, then you can try listening to audiobooks or podcasts on subjects that you are curious about and want to learn more about. Long form podcasts have a wide range of themes and topics to discuss.
Podcasts can have a considerable impact on the way you think about your life and how you will live it. The various conversations can introduce you to new concepts and possibilities that you may never have known existed. The power of podcasts is that it lets you spend time with people that you would never be able to otherwise. The traditional alternative is to read their books and blogs which can be extremely valuable. The only drawback to this is that these are not necessarily as accessible to most of us, because it is much easier to download an MP3 and listening to it as you go about your day. To be present to the thoughts, stories, and insights of other people who are more experienced in life than you are a true gift.
Another area worth checking out are the types of careers that others have chosen and created for themselves to see what, if any, might resonate with you. Try to avoid idealising those that stand out, to believe that your life will be perfect if you could just be like that person, instead, accept that anything that you find worth doing requires hard work and sacrifice. Your mission is to try to become the best version of yourself, not be exactly like someone else.
5. Don’t Rush
Finding your true calling doesn't always happen in a straight line. In fact, it can be argued that for the majority of us it will come about through a seemingly random set of challenges or circumstances. Many of us have come to know these seemingly random alignments of places, people, and events as synchronicities. We believe that the more we live our true calling, the more synchronistic life ends up being.
Some people have been lucky enough to have life-changing experiences that have helped them find and live their true purpose. Others are still searching for the one sign that they are on the path to finding and living their true purpose in life. If you are struggling to determine what it is that you should be doing in your life, just remember that it takes patience.
You can’t and shouldn’t expect your true calling to be delivered to your front door via express mail. Discovering and continually honing your path in life will be a regular part of your journey. You need to be compassionate to yourself and know that where ever you are in your life right now, is the best place for you to be. Learn to treat yourself, your practices, and the world with patience and don’t rush your journey to finding your true life’s purpose.
You need to remember to take your time and learn to discern what feels right in your heart. Try to avoid torturing yourself when you feel like you are failing. Remember, your successes and failures are all a part of the process, and with enough patience, you will find your true calling.
Everyone in this world has their own purpose that they need to try to discover. They have their own calling to answer and their own Ikigai to embrace. It is the mysterious nature of how you end up finding your calling that helps in making each and every life such a beautiful adventure.
It is also essential to remember as you search for your true purpose, that any journey worth taking is bound to have its own set of challenges and successes, but the key to reaching the end is to keep moving forward and to trust that with enough perseverance, honest, and deep contemplation, you will eventually end up walking the path that is yours and yours alone.
Finding your true calling is a process that is full of tension, doubt, and stress that has to be continuously managed. Everyone has a choice. You can either choose to follow the path in front of you or not. But, whatever you decide to do, you have to put in the work and take action if you want to find your true purpose in life.
The world is in the grip of a global pandemic. We are living in extremely uncertain times - and that uncertainty can be difficult to cope with.
You may feel worried right now.
You may struggle to keep anxious thoughts in check.
And you may feel unsure about the future.
But help is at hand - you CAN learn to live with uncertainty.
Facing Uncertainty is Scarier than Facing Physical Pain
A new study shows that the uncertainty of something bad happening can be more stressful than the knowledge of something bad happening.
In 2016, a group of London researchers explored how people react to being told they will either "definitely" or "probably" receive a painful electric shock.
They discovered an intriguing paradox. Volunteers who knew they would definitely receive a painful electric shock felt calmer and were measurably less agitated than those who were told they only had a 50 percent chance of receiving the electric shock.
Researchers recruited 45 volunteers to play a computer game in which they turned over digital rocks that might have snakes hiding underneath.
Throughout the game, they had to guess whether each rock concealed a
snake. When a snake appeared, they received a mild but painful electric
shock on the hand.
Over the course of the game they got better about predicting under which rocks they’d find snakes, but the game was designed to keep changing the
odds of success to maintain ongoing uncertainty.
And when we’re facing outcomes imbued with uncertainty, it’s the fact that
something bad might happen that “gets” us.
The volunteers’ level of uncertainty correlated to their level of stress. So, if
someone felt “certain” he or she would find a snake, stress levels were
significantly lower than if they felt that maybe they would find a snake.
In both cases, they’d get a shock, but their stress was loaded with added
Archy de Berker from the UCL Institute of Neurology said: "Our experiment
allows us to draw conclusions about the effect of uncertainty on stress. It
turns out that it's much worse not knowing you are going to get a shock than knowing you definitely will or won’t.”
Uncertainty Ignites our Primitive Survival Instinct
If we can’t neutralise a perceived threat, we engage in the unhelpful process called “worry”.
We grapple with whatever the problem is to find solutions to the threat, but
there are none.
Does this make us feel better?
No, of course it doesn’t - it makes us feel
In our need for certainty, we are wired to “catastrophise” - we view or talk of a situation as worse than it actually is. This leads to worry, which in turn leads to anxiety.
The modern brain struggles to distinguish between real threat and perceived threat.
The result is that the primitive brain takes over and triggers the primitive
survival instinct - fight-or-flight.
It asks questions:
What is going to happen...?
What is around the corner for me...?
Should I be doing more...?
Should I be doing less...?
What if my business is threatened...?
What if my livelihood is threatened...?
What if my life is threatened...?
The lack of answers can lead to:
What Can we do to Mitigate Uncertainty?
There are a number of things we can do to lessen the effects of uncertainty:
• Awareness is your superpower - be aware of your feelings and emotions
• Notice the “worry story” you are telling yourself - try to distance yourself
• Focus on breathing - long slow breaths
• Recognise the need to rise above fight-or-flight
• Accept uncertainty - allow yourself to stop the struggle
Stand up to Anxiety with Some Mood-Boosters
• Exercise and movement
• Meditation, self hypnosis
• Achievement-oriented activity
• Something pleasant or fun
Just 15 minutes a day, focussing on yourself, will help you regain a sense of
The more you practice all these strategies, the better you will become!
Wellbeing ! Self Care ! Self Love !
What does Self care mean to You ?
What does Self love & Wellbeing mean to you ?
I thought I would share with you some of my tips on staying at Level 10.
(I might add here there are days I do still have my off days & don't stay at a 10 & thats ok, Its the knowing & awareness within yourself & than taking the steps to get back on track).
Be kind to yourself always !
Everyone is different there is no right or wrong. It all comes down to unconditionally loving all of you.
This can be done by ACCEPTING all of you and LISTENING to your heart and soul.There was a time where I did not look after myself and I wasn't making those healthy lifestyle choices in all areas of my life due to overwhelm & not being happy with my life choices.
That's ok we all go there at times, it's what we choose to do that makes the difference & has the impact on our life.
What always comes to my mind is the movie Sliding Doors,Hmm Which one to take!
So what is loving yourself unconditionally?
Let's find out!
When I talk about Wellbeing/Wellness there is so much more to it than just feeling well. I want to talk about wellbeing/Wellness in the key areas of our lives.
Wow what an amazing holiday I'am having,feeling very rested & ready to go exploring & have some fun.Funny when we are working we don't realise the impact of just stopping & being in the moments of our day.I 've not had a month off work in many years.This is certainly going to change.
Its been fun giving myself time to meditate, yoga, walks by the ocean & catch up with friends,
Practicing Self-love is a passion of mind, allowing time for you is magical & the impact on your health & happiness is life changing.Sometime I actually have to remember this when you get so busy in everyday life.
What is Self Love?interesting question don't you think ,everyone will have their perception of what is, this is mine!
It’s about stopping and realizing the power of our thoughts, actions & the words we speak (including our mind chatter) to our self & others.
Self love is requires you to practice it in every moment of your day, listening to your mind, body & spirit without judgement.
You deserve to give yourself time to connect to yourself, allowing time to stop & enjoy the moment, being present from within! Remember the saying "smell the roses "!
I often hear “I don’t have the time to stop", putting yourself first can be challenging & seems impossible, especially with work & family.
It's last thing on your list of many things to do! don't your think its so Interesting how we put ourselves last.
The impact of making time for yourself as a high Priority will have so many rewarding benefits for you & the effects will ripple to your family ,partner & co workers.This will be life changing in so many ways.You will be happier & healthier in all aspects of your life. So this week take time out & enjoy life to it fullest .
What I do love to go for walks by the ocean ,have a beautiful night out for dinner, massage, movies & catching up with friends.
This week I caught up with Lorraine from Cairns,& Theresa from Uki both Wish teachers & special friends of mine it was so much fun.
What will you do today for you ?
Love Working with my Oils & my over all Benefits .More on this next week
Hi I'm Rosemary
Lover of life & all things
Mindset Mentor, Coach ,
Virtual Gastric Band Practitioner
Tea addict who helps busy women implement strategies to create the ultimate wellbeing including time, financial & lifestyle freedom & have an online Business creating a life they seriously LOVE.💕